We used to look forward to Thanksgiving, now we dread it. Thanksgiving Hell: My family is getting ready for our annual Thanksgiving dinner. If he doesn’t accept this, you might want to consider calling in a marriage counselor to be by your side telling you to push, and telling your husband to shape up. Then have a meeting with your OB and your husband. He or she should be happy to put rules into place about who can attend the happy event. If your husband can’t understand his loyalty here is to you, you should discuss this with your obstetrician. But no pregnant woman should be forced to have people lurking in the doorway marking the territory. Other women want their loved ones at home ready to get an alert of the good news. Some pregnant women want a cheering section in the hospital waiting room.
She obviously has a lot more work to do to come to terms with her condition, but you are not her therapist. While it’s sad your sister-in-law is dealing with infertility, you are not the surrogate mother for her child.
Things need to get straightened out in your family. Am I being unreasonable to want her to stay away from the hospital? I am now having nightmares about my SIL snatching the baby away as soon as I’m wheeled out of the delivery room!Ī: Your letter makes me hear those staccato violins that are the soundtrack to so many horror movies. I tried reasoning with my husband, but he says I should be appreciative because his sister loves our baby so much. My SIL is now upset with me and says I have no right to stop her from waiting outside the delivery room. I explained that when I was in labor, I didn’t really want to think about anybody else and that I would call her when I was ready to receive visitors. Several days later she said she really wanted to be there and be the first to see our baby and stated she would wait outside my room. I again reiterated my desire for privacy. She relented, and suggested staying with me while I was in labor and leaving the room when the baby started coming out. I was horrified and told her I wanted to have privacy. Recently she told me she really wants to be there at the delivery room when I give birth. She has been in regular contact with me throughout my pregnancy to a point where I found her attention a little overwhelming. My SIL is infertile yet she loves babies and children. SIL’s Unwelcome Intrusion in the Delivery Room: I am expecting my first baby and having problems with my SIL.